The purpose of selflove is to go to where you want to be. To walk the path that you want to travel. To be passionate about the life that you want to live. You are the creator of your life, so why not create something that you can love? Why not create something that makes you happy? Because if we don’t take control of our lives and start living them on our own terms, someone else will do it for us—and they probably won’t have our best interests in mind. So take control and start living the life that you truly desire!
“Everything begins and ends with mindset. When you assume the worst, you give the worst. When you assume the best, you give the best.” - Jay Shetty
If you are in a relationship, remember that your partner will not love you enough. They cannot. No one can fill up all those pockets of space inside you (you can only do that yourself). No matter how much someone loves you, they will still fail—many times—to meet your expectations or desires. And so it is equally important for single people and people in relationships to practice self-love. You need to be able to walk with purpose. You need to be able to embrace who you are and what makes you happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include another person. You need a good sense of self-worth before anyone else can see it in you. You need an inner confidence before anyone else will feel confident around you.
Build your sense of worth, self-esteem and self-worth
A big part of being single is accepting and loving yourself. It’s like anything, in life—if you build your worth internally, then you don’t need anyone else to validate it. So walk with purpose; even if no one else understands why you do what you do or how you feel, your sense of self-worth should be enough. Do what makes YOU happy first and foremost—and then everyone will benefit! You have a purpose—be sure to live by it. You are here for a reason, so figure out what that reason is! And remember that no matter who comes into your life or goes out of it, you can always be better than yesterday. We all can. Walk with that power in mind every day and things just seem a little bit easier.
Decide what you want from a relationship
Instead of focusing on what you don’t want—the pain, frustration, and uncertainty that come with being single—decide what you do want. Walking with purpose means knowing what direction you’re headed and making sure that each step gets you there. This is especially important when it comes to relationships; if you know exactly what kind of relationship you want, it will be easier for you to see if someone is a good fit for you or not. That way, when it comes time to make a decision about whether or not to pursue a romantic relationship with someone else, your path will be clear.
Celebrate the experience of being single
From my own experience and research, I’ve found that embracing singlehood has helped me appreciate my life more. Instead of feeling depressed about being alone, I try to focus on all the awesome experiences that are available to me while single. For example, living by myself gives me freedom and flexibility when it comes to time management. The point is there are good things about being single — take advantage of them! There’s no shame in taking some time for yourself. So embrace your singledom! Life is short, so do what makes you happy (and if that means enjoying a pint at your favorite bar every night, then go for it). And remember to share your happiness with others as well; spreading love will only make you feel better about yourself in return.
Love the journey
It can be really hard when you feel lonely and alone. Sometimes, it feels like there is no one who understands what you’re going through. When that happens, use those feelings as an opportunity to learn more about yourself. Spend some time reflecting on your goals and values – what do you value most in life? Use that information to make new friends and date yourself – it’s just as valuable as dating someone else! If you don’t know where to start, try volunteering or joining a club at school. Make sure you surround yourself with people who love and support you.
If you’re single, it’s time to learn how to embrace being alone. You might have had a bad break-up or be on your way out of a long-term relationship—either way, it may feel impossible right now to love yourself and be content with not having someone in your life. The good news is that you can learn how to embrace single life and use it as an opportunity for self-discovery.
Love & Joy